The Surprising Mindsets of Success (8/8): Realistic Optimism Explained

Jun 25, 2012
mindsets of success

All it takes is Belief, Acknowledgement, and Effort.


This is part 8 of a 8 part series:

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (1/8): Introducing “Be Good” and “Get Better”

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (2/8): Are Your Basic Traits Fixed or Flexible

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (3/8): How Your Mindset Affects Your Coping Strategies

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (4/8): How Your Mindset is Affecting Your Relationships

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (5/8): How to Transition to the “Get Better” Mindset

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (6/8): Are You Putting in the Effort?

The Surprising Mindsets of Success (7/8): How “Realistic Optimism” Can Help You Achieve Your Goal


In our last article, we introduced the concept of Realistic Optimism. Realistic Optimism is to expect to succeed at your goal, while simultaneously acknowledging that it will be difficult.


The Big Three

There are three very important elements in Realistic Optimism that are absolutely crucial to understand if you’re going to apply it correctly.



The first one is to expect to succeed at your goal. We’ve all been told countless times that belief in our ability to succeed is crucial. Guess what? The research conclusively backs it up.

One interesting study identified belief and expectation of success to be the single most important element when predicting whether alcoholics would recover or relapse as they attempted to break free of addiction.



The next key element to understanding Realistic Optimism is acknowledging that it will be difficult.

How does one go about deciding how difficult it will be? By being objective. Don’t oversell yourself on the difficulty of your goal or make it seem like a walk in the park. It’s important to take the time, look at the necessary steps towards achievement, and evaluate the difficulty outside of your emotional mind.

Consider the amount of physical energy, mental energy, time, distractions, and other elements that might make your goal difficult for you.


Put in the Effort

Lastly, let’s look at the mechanism by which acknowledging difficulty works. When we acknowledge that our goal will be challenging, we increase our level of effort, prepare for difficulty ahead of time, and persist when the going gets tough.

Basically we know what we’re up against. Think of a current goal you have. Do you know what you’re up against?


In Summary…

Achieving success and happiness takes some work no matter how you slice it. However, if you can get into the right mindset, you’ll find your success and happiness quicker and with less suffering.

Remember all that we’ve discussed in this series of articles. Use the information now to help you with your current goals. In the future, when you’ve developed a new set of goals, refer back for a brush up to ensure that you start off strong.


Ready to dissolve stress, frustration, and unhappiness? Want more help finding your inner peace and unconditional well-being? Then visit:

Awaken Through Mindfulness


Did you enjoy this series of articles? If so, visit some of our other series:

The Science of Your Subconscious

The Motivation Equation


Great Goal Setting

Release Your Limiting Beliefs


If you’ve enjoyed this series of articles, leave a comment below and let us know what you think.




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