Your Model of Success: Who Do You Take Advice From?

Mar 02, 2010

 

model of success

What steps do you take in creating your success?

 

If a person living on the street came up to you and offered advice on how to be rich, would you take it?

That’s an extreme example but you get the point. If you’re taking advice from someone in a specific field, make sure they are a success in that field in the context of where they are advising you.

This is obviously common sense, but people don’t always follow it.

If someone is offering you advice on how to create wealth, check them out, and ask yourself if you want success in the way they’ve experienced it.

 

Modelling

Also, the whole idea of, “Well I learned from my divorce, let me tell you…” is bogus. The guy just got a divorce, yes he may have learned some lessons, yes he may have even cracked the holy relationship code, but until he proves it in his own life (i.e. forms and maintains a successful relationship), it’s just not smart to take his advice.

Modelling someone, in a particular context, who doesn’t have the result you want can be dangerous.

 

Invest in the Relationship

On the other hand, once you find someone who is great at doing what you want to be great at (or has a particular result you’ve been wanting), do whatever you can to hang out with them.

And not in a “you” centered way. You’ve got add value to the relationship.

Hanging out with someone who’s successful in a field you want to get better at is one of the quickest ways to improve at it yourself.

You don’t even necessarily have to be talking about that particular subject. Just the act of spending time together allows their beliefs, values, energy, and habits seep through to you. It’s like osmosis.

 

So Remember…

When creating an idea of what success looks like to you, make sure that person is actually successful in what you want to become better at. Also, meet these people, befriend them, and invest in a meaningful relationship with them.

Who do you know, or who do you want to know, who has the success that you want?

 

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Comments

  1. Inguna Brazil says:

    1)I never buy anything, what you can get free.2) i think if you really want get that thing throught, you have to learn it yourself. It is lots of information out there ,what you can findfree, and dont have to pay any money, only thing , what you have to do, you have to look for it,be willing, to seek , read understand. Because if you dont understand, no “ready made recipe” will help you. 3) every one is diffirent, everyone has his free will, and free choise. I am very individual, i listeneveryones advice, but do things my own way. This way i can appreciate my victories, and learn from my mistakes. “Ready made recipes ” are not for me , what ever it is= wealth programs, advertises, qiuck fixes. etc.

  2. Hey Rishan!

    What you say is very true, there are so many people who talk about how to do something when they themselves have not mastered what they talk about. Like people teaching you how to make money online, but they only make money online by teaching others how to do it.

    Do your research before you spend money or time with other people’s methods that teach you how to do something. I like the audio clip. Niiice

  3. Maggie says:

    Of course you are right…”you are judged by the company you keep” “birds of a feather..

  4. its all synchronisity well done !
    here’s hoping others who read this take note
    blessings and love to all!
    krisi

  5. brilliant and so too the point, i like your style.

  6. Oooooozingly amazing post.

    Homeless man example is really strong.

    so is the divorced guy example. flashed a bunch of cases i’ve seen all over the place that apply. so funny.

    trouble is that it’s often difficult to determine whether they’re good at talking it or actually live it. i know that you live moneyness but that’s cos i’ve met you.

    great post man. couldn’t agree more.

    this is exactly why i try to hang out with you as much as pos. learnt so much. really :)

    fully agree about it not having to be talking about whatever they’re good at – just being around them and soaking in the way they live is prolly more valuable than trying to get them to verbalise what makes them successful. a lotta the time the verbalised version won’t be what actually worked.

    hope you keep writing man.

    supremo respect.
    cnwale

  7. Stephen Wider says:

    I don’t agree at ALL! What IS Success? Was Ghandi a success? He wasn’t rich! How about Mother Teresa? Neither was she.

    Greed mongering doesn’t make one a “Success”, helping PEOPLE does!

    • Hi Stephen, thank you for your thoughts. I totally agree that Ghandi and Mother Teresa were successes. So what I’m trying to say, is that if their success is what you’re wanting more of in your life, then take advice from them. People can be successful in tons of different sphere’s of life. Just make sure you take advice from a person who has had success at exactly what you want more success at! Rishan

  8. ROBERT ASSEN says:

    RISHAN,
    I LIKE WHAT YOU HAVE TO SAY & I PERSONALLY SEE WHAT IS OFFERED FOR FREE FIRST & THEN I TRUST MY INTUITION AS TO WHETHER THIS IS FOR ME OR NOT & MOST OF THE TIME I DO THE RIGHT THING FOR ME BY JUST TRUSTING MYSELF. JUST AS I IMMEDIATELY LOOKED AT YOU AS A FRIEND BECAUSE THAT IS THE FEELING THAT I GOT RIGHT FROM THE START.
    KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AS I AM SURE THAT WE ALL APPRECIATE YOU SHARING WITH US.
    CHEERS MATE !

  9. yes I don’t know how old you are Rishan,but with age you most definatley learn the art of DISCERNMENT. For me when I was in my 20’s Im soft spoken and I don’t like confrontation, older people seemed to think they could force their opionions on me and I learned the valuable lessons of discernment. take care

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