6 Traps that Ensnare Your Power of Presence

Aug 24, 2016
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Gotcha!

 

“Gotcha!” says the Trapper of the great Alaskan Frontier as he approaches his handmade trap.

It’s a simple and genius device that Trappers have been using for hundreds of years without one improvement or alternation- it’s sheer perfection.

The hungry animal takes the bait and the trap is sprung. The animal is robbed of its life energy, so that its remaining physical resources may be put to some other use.

This whole animal/Trapper/trap thing seems pretty far away from your lifestyle, doesn’t it?

But it’s not.

There are traps everywhere and every day they rob us humans of our energy.

When you can begin to identify what these traps are and how they affect your power of Presence, you will be able to:

  1. Avoid these traps, and/or
  2. Recognize that you are trapped and release yourself.

If you want to free up opportunity to become powerful in your thoughts and actions, then familiarize yourself with these 6 traps that ensnare your power of Presence.

 

Faultfinding

Faultfinding is one of the most common traps out there for us humans.

We become consumed in figuring out “who’s to blame”. When we identify who’s at fault, we villainize them. In some fashion or another, they become the enemy.

What’s the bait in this trap?

Answer: Not assuming responsibility for the current state of affairs.

It’s easy to figure out why “I didn’t do anything wrong”. And maybe you didn’t, but when you shift your attention from “what’s at hand” to “who did this to me”, you waste an incredible amount of energy. Energy that you could be spending on your next best idea, decision, or action.

 

Justifying

Justifying is the cousin of fault finding.

Instead of shifting attention from the situation to another person, you shift the attention to yourself. You want to protect your idea or action from a) some other person, and/or b) yourself.

It’s a very dramatic game of “I don’t want to feel like this”.

Some situation is creating dissonance in your thoughts and you would love to soothe it with a few encouraging words. “Well, I…and he…and last time…and what if…so then I”, is an example of the unyielding mental stream that wants to create some specific emotional reaction.

What’s the bait in this trap?

Answer: Not assuming responsibility for how you feel.

 

Negativity

Negativity can take shape in many forms, but in this article we will focus on “negative emotions”.

Investing in negative emotions is a job where you can never “clock out”. The more you invest in these emotions, the greater the demand is for its chemicals in your body. Simply put- it’s an addiction.

With enough time, every situation will draw from your reservoir of “why this is less than ideal”.

It takes an incredible amount of energy to create, process, and share these thoughts, chemicals, and actions.

What’s the bait in this trap?

Answer: The yearning for something better.

Who doesn’t want “something better”? We all do, but the trick is to find the perfection in your current situation and realize that it is going to be a step-wise progression to your ideal state. It’s a low-stakes opportunity for you to evaluate if X is actually what you want, and if any skill or perspective needs to be polished before “game day”.

 

Next Time

In our next article, we will continue with this list and give you 3 more traps that you need to be aware of if you want to claim your power of Presence.

 

Your Next Step

Your next step is to familiarize yourself with these 3 traps. Learn them and observe them in your day-to-day. When you recognize these traps either in your thought process or actions, couple this awareness with some physical movement to “escape”.

Aligning your processing with physical movement is one of the most powerful practices you need to exercise in order to reclaim your power of presence.

A simple foot stomp, finger snap, clap, clenched fist, etc. will do. Consider choosing something discreet as you will perform this physical movement many times a day in the mix of different companies- no need to draw attention to yourself.

 

Food for Thought

We introduced 3/6 most common traps we humans experience. What are some other traps that you have experienced in the past? What are some traps you are currently experiencing? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.

 

P.S. Quick reads like this are incredibly powerful and serve well to remind us, get us back on track, and to help us learn new skills. However, for those of you out there who are interested in even bigger gains towards personal freedom, removing blocks, deepening relationships, and connecting to Source, consider Coaching. It is truly the most transformative experience you will ever have. If this is you, sign up for a free Coaching Strategy Session and learn what Coaching can do for you (serious applicants only).

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