The Present Moment: How to Turn Your Struggle Into Enlightenment

Jun 16, 2016
struggle

How much more can you stomach?

 

Why don’t we have the happiness that we want?

The motivation is there. The opportunity is there. Where is it going wrong?

This is the answer everybody wants to know…

…Only…the thing is…we’re asking the wrong question.

Knowing that we don’t have the happiness that we deserve is the beginning, but what’s the next step?

 

Most of Us

Most of us don’t know what that next step is.

We add another layer of confusion on top of the tangled event. We’re like the curious dog who wants to be friends with the porcupine. We’re inquisitive, we’re brave, we put in the effort, but right when we think we’re friends, we get a mouth full of sharp quills.

This burning desire for peace and understanding will never be satisfied.

That is, until you begin to ask the right question. The question that will awaken the deepest intelligence you have to offer yourself. The question that will call you to salvation.

Isn’t it a relief to know that such a question exists?

Isn’t it a relief to know that there is something you can actually do to put real change in motion. Isn’t a relief to know that you have the power to turn your struggle into enlightenment?

Are you ready to know what the question is?

 

The Question

When you are truly motivated to break through the veil of illusion, you will find yourself asking this question…

“What is my relationship with this moment?”

And there you have it, it’s the biggest gold nugget you’ve ever witnessed.

But asking the question is only half the battle. Allowing the answer to surface is when things really get interesting.

 

The  Answer

The most common answers to “What is my relationship with this moment” are ones of resistance.

You resist the moment, and in turn, the moment resists you. It’s the perpetuating argument that you don’t know you’re in the middle of.

And what does that argument sound like?

You: What is my relationship with this moment?

You: I’m pissed off because I’m not getting what I want from this other person.

You: I’m sad because I don’t feel good.

You: I’m disappointed because I was expecting something else.

 

Our lives are saturated with these little secret conversations.

 

What to Do?

It’s a tall order to ask yourself to change your relationship with the present moment in all dimensions of your life.

You’re not ready to shave your head, move to a cave at the top of some mountain, and dedicate the next year of your life to reshaping your reality. This, or some version of this, could be incredibly valuable for your personal development.

However, you have responsibilities, and a year on a secluded island just isn’t going to happen.

Does that mean your doomed to relive the same unfavorable relationship with the present moment for all eternity?

No, your potential for change is just as real as any monk in a monastery. Here’s what you’re going to do…

 

The How To

Begin to ask yourself, as often as possible, “What is my relationship with this moment?”.

Just by acknowledging the present moment, you will immediately improve that relationship. By acknowledging the quality of that relationship, you are giving yourself the opportunity to change it.

Soon, you will begin to recognize patterns.

You will begin to observe EXACTLY what is affecting your relationship with the present moment AND how.

Information = Power. Power = Choice. With this new information, you will have the power to choose how you want to interact with the present moment.

As stated earlier, to change your relationship with the present moment in all dimensions of your life is a tall order- it will take time.

However, there is one type of resistance to the present moment that occurs more often (with a higher frequency) than the others. This particular strain of resistance is unique to you and your stage of development.

When you begin to recognize the patters of your resistance, you will recognize which one is blocking your peace and happiness most often. Then, you can address it specifically, like a surgeon with a scalpel.

For those of you who are motivated, you can stream line this process by turning it into a project. It goes like this…

Set ten alarms on your phone to all go off in one day. When each alarm goes off, ask yourself “What is my relationship with this moment?”. Then, write your response on a piece of paper or in some app on your phone.

At the end of the day, review your answers and observe the patterns, find the common denominator. When you do, you will know exactly in what way you are resisting the present moment most often.

 

In Conclusion

Want to turn struggle into enlightenment? Change your relationship with the present moment.

 

If you have any questions about this article, please ask by leaving a comment below. Also, we would love to start a conversation here. Tell us…What is your biggest hurdle to achieving your ideal state of happiness?

 

P.S. Quick reads like this are incredibly powerful and serve well to remind us, get us back on track, and to help us learn new skills. However, for those of you out there who are interested in even bigger gains towards personal freedom, removing blocks, deepening relationships, and connecting to Source, consider Coaching. It is truly the most transformative experience you will ever have. If this is you, sign up for a free Coaching Strategy Session and learn what Coaching can do for you (serious applicants only).

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